Abuse or violence against males happens to men from all cultures and all walks of life. Figures suggest that as many as one in three victims of domestic violence are male. However, men are often reluctant to report abuse by women because they feel embarrassed, or they fear they won’t be believed, or worse, that police will assume that since they’re male they are the perpetrator of the violence and not the victim.
An abusive wife or partner may hit, kick, bite, punch, spit, throw things or destroy his possessions. To make up for any difference in strength, she may attack while he is asleep or otherwise catch him by surprise. She may also use a weapon, such as a gun or a knife, or strike him with an object. She may abuse or threaten his children or harm his pets. Of course, domestic abuse is not limited to violence.
His spouse or partner may also:
- Verbally abuse, belittle or humiliate him in front of friends, colleagues, family or on social media sites
- Be possessive, act jealous, or harass him with accusations of being unfaithful
- Take away his car keys, medications or try to control where he goes and who he sees
- Try to control how he spends money or deliberately default on joint financial obligations
- Make false allegations about him to his friends, employer, the police, or find other ways to manipulate and isolate him
- Threaten to leave him and prevent him from seeing his kids if he reports the abuse
- Force him to have sex or engage in sexual acts against his will
- Blame him for her violent behavior or tell him that he deserves it